Apparenatly I accidentally posted this thread twice. (Give me a break. I'm 77...  ;)) Would appreciate it if a moderator could delete one of the threads.  Ty.

@theman Bro, you are awesome I just want you to know that! 77 and a MotU fan

Thanks, King. I'm like a shark: either I keep swimming or I''' sink to the bottom off the ocean.  :). lol

And the most important thing I ever learned was "It's in giving that you get."  Took me half a lifetime to learn that.  

I am trying best to learn to deal with grief and how to also get back into life with out guilt or regrets.

@michaelholloway 

Time is the best healer.  And try to not be so tough on yourself. I'm sure there were good times you had with your father. Focus on them and try to put the bad ones in a box and up on a shelf.  

Empathy. Realizing that just because something doesn't affect you personally doesn't mean it's not affecting others.

Thankfully I learned it at a very early age because of some amazing parenting (and probably a little Mr. Roger's Neighborhood on TV). I've been able to live most of my life with empathy, and I've made that my top priority to pass to my children and grandchildren. 

When you understand that an issue is hurting other people even if you are completely unaffected by it, it changes your approach with everything.